FINDING HAPPINESS

“Happiness comes in waves, you will feel it again”

I used to aspire to be happy. A-levels took a toll on me massively. There were positive moments. However, you can only be positive for so long. So as a coping mechanism I aspired to be happy, it worked got me through the most stressful period of my life. Despite this, it came with the realisation that you can’t aspire to be happy. It’s a feeling that comes and goes like any other feeling. If you are doing something that makes you unhappy, you are going to be unhappy. If you are surrounding yourself with people who do things or say things that make you unhappy, you are going to be unhappy. During A-levels, I thought I was aspiring to be happy but I wasn’t, I just wanted it to end so I could have the time and energy to do the things that made me feel happy.

In society there is so much pressure to fake a smile because understandably talking about feelings and emotions are not easy, but also the world is a very judgemental place so expressing emotions is seen as a weakness-which it’s not.

As I go forward with life, finding happiness is something I am going to stop. You can’t always be happy but you can do things that make you happy.

• Spend time with people that make you feel comfortable.
• Try something new , if you hate it stop it , if you like it continue!
• Remove yourself from situations that make you unhappy or uncomfortable.
• If positive energy is not being reciprocated from someone and it makes you sad. Give it to someone much more deserving of it.

Now, I understand it can be very hard to do some of these things, especially due to quarantine. Everything is easier said then done. Nonetheless you have to try.

(feel free to disagree)